Escape from Freedom (I borrowed this tittle from Fromm)

A devilish friend, who tries to be an angel (but he admitted that I am the angel, not him) sent me a message. He asked what my definition of love is. I told him that love is the underlining reason of our acts.

I asked him what’s up there. He told me that he’d been into a girl, tries to love a young girl, unconditionally for 6 years. In a sudden, this girl, few days ago, asked him,” Do you love me?” I couldn’t deny that I smiled when I was reading his message. Geez…6 years of trying to love someone, unconditionally (whatever unconditional love is) and got this question.

My angelic devilish friend told me that that girl is a real sweetheart. She is a charmer, so beautiful. She has many admirers from all around the world. She can choose which men she wants to date with.

I smiled and replied him, “Too many choices bring headache.” If that girl was here with me, I’d ask her how she chose one out of those men. Some people think that it is fun having many choices to choose, including admirers.

But have you thought about this….if you only have 1 pair of shoes, you wouldn’t spend much time to think about which pair of shoes you want to wear. You’d simply wear your only pair of shoes. If you have couple of pairs, then you’d spend sometime…let’s say 2 minutes. I had 40 something pair of shoes once…and it wasted more time to choose. Deciding which man I want to spend my life with, is even worse. I could try my shoes within few seconds, but men?

An Adam told me, that freedom brings responsibilities, and we have to face the consequences of our acts. Sometimes it is fun to be repressed so we don’t have to take any responsibilities of what we have done. Sometimes I wish I only have 1 choice so I don’t have to choose. When it doesn’t work, I can simply say….”well it’s not my fault. I didn’t have any choices. I was forced to do it.”